be enough for yourself first, the rest of the world can wait
More than a glow up
When we think of self love we often think of everything physical. Self love means glow up. And glow up means fresh hair, fresh nails, loosing a few pounds, a cute little new outfit and maybe reading some inspirational quotes. That’s all. For the longest time in my life I thought that this would be self love. It was not. In the end I was still hating myself, for reasons I didn’t know.
Real self love
Everything I wrote about like getting a cute new outfit or fresh hair, is part of your self care. Just a part of it. Real self love has less to do with what you see outside. It has everything to do with what you feel inside. Self love means accepting yourself for who you are. Self love means not judging yourself anymore. How you talk to yourself and why you talk the way you do. Self love means truly knowing yourself, acknowledging your bad and good sides.
Inner work
Self love means inner work. If you decide to really look behind your problems, you don’t get away without it. Why do you really talk bad about yourself? Why do you have the feeling that you will never be good enough? Why do you hate yourself? Maybe you will never know the exact reasons you are who you are. Maybe it will hurt thinking about these questions, maybe you don’t get the answer right away. But this is all part of the process.
Healing is exhausting
Healing is exhausting, healing is confusing, healing is messy. When you don’t do the inner work, in the long term, you will always have these problems with yourself.
So what does self love means?
Self love means to rebuild a relationship with yourself, this time a healthy one. At least for me, this is what self love truly means. What does self love means for you?
Loveyourself 